“Learning to Lose”

Losing doesn’t make us losers. Well said, Elizabeth. When children learn how to lose they develop life skills. A hug along the way lets them know it’s okay. Elizabeth’s post is spot on. I play Sorry with children all the time, and it’s an opportunity to teach those life skills.

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I have played hundreds of board and card games as the oldest child of four, as a mother and as a grandmother. In all of these activities there is a winner and often several losers. One of the truths I have observed over the years is that we have to learn how to lose. Or, more importantly, how not to be what my father always referred to as a “sore loser.”

We learn this skill slowly. Usually we “let” the littlest players win as they learn a new game. But after a while we begin to let them lose occasionally if that is how the game is going. When that happens we are sure to hear a variety of complaints, most often “that isn’t fair” or “you cheated.” No one likes the feeling of losing a game and the easiest way to stop those feelings is to blame the other…

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Gloria – a Regular Day at School

Somehow Gloria knows how to make things right for a child.  Emmett left his lovey kitty at school.  Here is his mother’s email:

Hi all,

Emmett came home today without lovey kitty. He doesn’t remember where lovey kitty is in the classroom, but if you can keep your eye out for a little black kitty with a Halloween ribbon (orange and black) that would be great.

Thank you,
Samantha

I knew right away where lovey kitty was.  And, I knew Gloria would take care of him.  This is what I emailed to Mom:

Hi Samantha,

Lovey kitty is in Emmett’s nap cubby.  I put him there.  I didn’t realize he should go home with Emmett.  We were having such a great time after rest, I didn’t ask Emmett if lovey kitty should go home.  I bet Gloria is taking good care of him tonight. 🙂

Jennie

Mom knew Gloria would be there, too.

Thank you, Jennie!  Emmett is really happy to hear that Gloria is taking care of lovey kitty!  Thank you for letting us know that lovey kitty has a friend for the night. We were worried that lovey kitty would be afraid.

Thank you!

Hugs,

Samantha

Just a regular day with Gloria.  She is the bandaid, the listener, and the comforter.  She is the best friend, funny and shy.  She makes a difference every day.

Jennie

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A child’s tale

C.S. Lewis understood the depth of meaning in children’s books. So did Margery Williams, author of “The Velveteen Rabbit.” And, so does Sue Vincent. She still reads children’s books, and so do I. This post gets to the heart of the story for every adult.

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Road to Love – S.Vincent

I had one of those ‘moments’ today as I passed between the bookcases in the bedroom. It is odd the things that make it through the veneer of calm acceptance. In this case, it was the characters in books… characters I had first met as I snuggled within the circle of my mother’s arms. Characters like Aslan and Reepicheep, whose stories I had read, decades later, to my own sons while I held them too in my arms… creatures to whom I had hoped to introduce my granddaughters too. But, of course, it isn’t really about the characters… it is all about the memories and the love in which they shared.

There is a lot of wisdom in books, and children’s books in particular have always held a place in my heart for the gentle wisdom they hold. Moments of pure gold are scattered through…

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Halloween’s Full Moon…a Little Creepy

I was determined to take a photo of tonight’s Halloween full moon – the first full moon and blue moon on Halloween night since 1944.

This was the first photo I snapped from my backyard.  We had snow yesterday, so a little was remaining on the ground.  You can see some snow on the tree branches, to the right.

A moment later I snapped a second photo.  I always take a few in order to get the best shot.  Well…this was the shot:

These photos were taken a second apart.  What is the mist?  I did not see it all.  Not at all!  Yet, it is in the photo.  Seriously, this just happened. I was stunned.

Is there something here?  I believe so.  A picture is worth a thousand words.

Jennie

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Halloween and a “Jennie Story”

Our ‘Day in the Dark’ and ‘Pajama Day’ at school was fun.  Glow sticks and black play dough were a big hit.  Wearing pajamas to school is cool.  Things are different this year, yet the constant is storytelling.

Storytelling is, and has always been, the foundation for language and learning.  I write about children, yet storytelling applies to all people.  Words and ideas are how we start to learn, and how we continue to learn.

Everybody loves a good, gripping story.  I am the storyteller at school, and all my stories are true- things that happened to me in my childhood.  A pretend story starts with Once Upon a Time.  A true story starts with It Happened Like This.

Whenever I say the words, “It happened like this”, children are captivated.  They know it is a ‘Jennie Story’ and a true story.  Best of all, they are getting far more words and language into their brains because storytelling has no pictures.

This is “The Halloween Story”.  I remember it like it was yesterday.  Children beg for this story even in the summer.  I told it today to a captive audience.  You could have heard a pin drop.

“It Happened Like This”… When I was eight years old I went trick-or-treating with my little sister, Sarah.  Back then children went trick-or-treating alone.  There were no Moms or Dads.  And, we never went out until it was really dark.  All the way dark.  I dressed up as Raggedy Ann and Sarah dressed up as a scarecrow (although she looked more like a hobo than a scarecrow).  We each had a pillow case to collect all the candy which we called our ‘loot’.  We were so excited!

Then my mother said, “Jennie, don’t forget to go trick-or-treating at Mrs.  Crotty’s house.”  Mrs. Crotty!  Oh, no!  She was really old.  She always looked mean and she never smiled.  Her house was dark brick with big bushes and trees everywhere.  Everything was always dark.  Her house was as old as she was.

I said nothing to my mother.

Sarah and I headed out trick-or-treating.  We had the best time!  We got tons of candy, too.  When we got back home we dumped our pillowcases out on the rug in the den and sorted through all the candy.  I gave Sarah all my Tootsie Roll Pops and she gave me all her Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups.  Yum!

Then my mother said, “Did you go trick-or-treating at Mrs. Crotty’s?”  I had forgotten, of course.  When I heard her words I felt like a lightening bolt had hit me while I was falling off a roller coaster.  Again she said, “Well, did you go to Mrs. Crotty’s house?”  All I could do was look down and shake my head.  My mother was not happy!  She said, “Jennie, I told you to go.  So take your sister’s hand and go right now”.

I took Sarah’s hand and we went back outside together.  Now it was really dark and trick-or-treat was over.  Over!  There were no lights on at anyone’s house.  We slowly walked to Mrs. Crotty’s house.  As we turned the sidewalk and walked up her walkway I squeezed Sarah’s hand and she squeezed mine.  I was so scared.  We got to Mrs. Crotty’s porch which was pitch black and surrounded by weird branches.  As we approached the front door I said to my sister, “You knock.”  “Oh, no” she said, “Mother told you to do it.”  So, I took a deep breath and knocked on the door.

A moment later I heard the door slowly creak open.  Just as I was ready to run away, the lights came on and there stood Mrs. Crotty, smiling.  I’d never seen her smile before.  She said, “Hi Jennie.  Hi Sarah.  Come in.”  We stepped inside the door.  “Wait right there!”  We didn’t move.  She ran to the back of the house and returned with two gigantic popcorn balls, covered in melted butter and caramel.  They were still warm.  Yum!

And I was so afraid.  Silly me.

Jennie

P.S.  This is a popular ‘Jennie story’ in my classroom.  Happy Halloween!

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Halloween, Then and Now at School


Our classroom family event, a few years ago.

Halloween is quite different this year.  There’s no trick-or-treating.  Children will be wearing pajamas to school today for ‘PJ Day’, and ‘A Day in the Dark’.  These are fun alternatives to costumes, as has become the norm for the past many years.

Sadly, our ever-popular family party at school could not happen this year.  For me, this was one of the hardest changes and biggest disappointments.  The evening of a pizza supper on the playground, followed by carving a pumpkin into a jack-o-lantern was magical – especially lighting the jack-o-lanterns as it became dark, and singing our favorite jack-o-lantern song.

Then today I received this email:

Dear Jennie,

The Bakers and Cusicks had a GCS/Aqua Room Pumpkin celebration last night. Like yours from years past, we had pizza and carved pumpkins. We just didn’t sing but decorated cookies instead.

Thanks for creating those great memories that we can continue! 🍁❤️🎃

Love,
Kerry

L to R—Dillon, Isabel, Emmett, Owen, & Brennan

My goodness!  How wonderful, indeed.  Yes, this is an event that creates memories over many years.  They did not sing the song, so I thought you might like to hear it (children want to sing it all year long):

Gloria has been trick-or-treating with an Aqua Room friend every year since I can remember.  She has been Minnie Mouse, a dragon, a cow, a scarecrow, and wearing many other costumes for Halloween.  This year she is staying home in the classroom, with her mask, and taking care of the jack-0-lantern.

Children are resilient.  Gloria is resilient.  I know that.  I need to remember that.

Stayed tuned tomorrow for storytelling, and a Jennie Story – “The Halloween Story.”

Jennie

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Smorgasbord Children’s Cafe and Bookstore – Share your Children’s book reviews – #PictureBooks with Jennie Fitzkee Part Three – Upper grade books for older children.

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Trees

This autumn has been gorgeous.  The trees are brilliant in a variety of colors.  They make me look up.  They make me stop to really look.

Summer was dry, so it is surprising that our autumn is especially colorful.  I like to think that Mother Nature is giving us an art show during this pandemic year, to remind us that nature and trees are a beautiful thing, and to tell us to look.

Back to trees.

Trees represent the circle of life in ways that we can understand- children, too.  They are the visual to life and death, growing, survival, thriving, and new birth.  Trees are a home for animals.  They are a playground and shelter for everyone.  The list is a long one.  When I use the word ‘grounded’, trees are the benchmark.

Many children’s books have been written about trees.  One book that I read aloud every year is The Seasons of Arnold’s Apple Tree by Gail Gibbons.

After showing children the front cover, I start the book with the back cover:

I take a minute to let the four pictures sink in.  Then I ask questions. Did you know half of the pleasure – and learning – that happens when reading a book to children, is asking questions?

What do you see?
What makes the 
pictures different?
There’s a name for what they’re called.  Do you know what it is?

And so it goes.  We spend a long time on the four seasons, the order they happen, and how the tree is different in each one.  It sets the stage for the story of the tree over each season. Each season has many pages as to what the tree does.  Here are the lead-in pages for each season:


Spring


Summer



Fall


Winter

I read this book to children at the start of each season, and we take a “tree walk” to see what we can see.  This year’s tree walk was spectacular in beauty.  Of course there are many other wonderful books about trees that I read to children.  This coming week I will be reading Ox-Cart Man by Donald Hall, and The Little House by Virginia Lee Burton.  Last week we read Fletcher and the Falling Leaves by Julia Rawlinson, and Tap the Magic Tree by Christie Matheson.

Look deep into nature and then you will understand everything better.
Albert Einstein

Jennie

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Look for the Crack

Thank you Mitch Teemley for these enlightening words from some of my favorite authors.

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Hope is the Lens

“Listen to the mustn’ts, child. Listen to the don’ts. Listen to the shouldn’ts, the impossibles, the won’ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me… Anything can happen, child. Anything can be.” ~Shel Silverstein

“Hold fast to dreams,
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird,
That cannot fly.”
~Langston Hughes

“Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
And sings the tune without the words
And never stops at all.”
~Emily Dickinson

“There is a crack in everything.
That’s how the light gets in.”
~Leonard Cohen

“Life damages us, everyone. We can’t escape that damage. But now, I am also learning this: We can be mended. We mend each other” ~Veronica Roth

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astonishing.

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