Milly the Quilter Story – Part 2

In Part 1, I discovered a Peace Portal at a museum and recreated it in my classroom.  Peace became a big deal and very real to children.  When I saw quilts that were murals, I knew I had to make a Peace Quilt with children.  The only problem was finding a quilter.  At last I met Milly.  It was an unexpected meeting.

Part 2

“Milly is the best quilter, not just in town but everywhere.” said the director of the Senior Center.

“Great!  When can I stop by and meet her?”

“She’ll be here on Wednesday with her quilting group.”

Wednesday couldn’t come fast enough for me.  As soon as school was over, I was there.  I walked over to Milly and introduced myself.  She smiled (sort of) and I bounced around, telling her all about the Haitian quilts I had seen at the Bennington Museum.  I was so excited!  I showed her photos of the quilts, spewing story after story of each one and their art.  I noticed that the other quilters were looking down at their work, sewing like mad, as if making eye contact with me would bring a plague upon the group.

The more I talked, the faster they sewed, and the lower their heads dropped.  All six of them.  Hmm…  Milly hadn’t said a word.  Not One Word.  It occurred to me that perhaps I was behaving like a child who had been let loose in an amusement park.  But, this was such a terrific idea.  And those quilts were stunning.  Each one told a story.  Here are but a few:

I finally stopped, not sure what else to say.  Clearly I had overwhelmed if not alienated Milly and her fellow quilters.  I put the brakes on and told Milly all about the Peace Portal, and how making a Peace Quilt would be the culmination of all we had done in the classroom.  I held my breath.  I asked, “So what do you think?”

Milly quietly put down her sewing.  I’ll never forget what she said to me, her very first words:

“I am a traditional quilter.  I quilt blocks, squares.  I have never seen or done any quilting like that.  This would be completely new and different – a challenge – and I’d like that challenge.  Yes, I will do this.”

And so, a Peace Quilt was about to be created.  First, the children had to design the quilt. What does Peace look like?  How does Peace make you feel?  How was I going to link that concept of Peace to a quilt?  How would I start?  What would I say to children?  After all, the Peace Portal was last year, and many of the children were new.  And then it came to me.  I knew right away.

Of course… Gloria!

Yes!  Gloria has a blanket.  We always called it her blankie.  What if she wanted to call it her quilt, her Peace Quilt, because it makes her feel so good…peaceful.  Brilliant, Gloria.

Milly came to meet the children, meet Gloria, and hear all about her idea.  I have never seen a friendship develop so quickly.  Milly and Gloria hit it off right from the start.  We gathered for a group meeting. The conversation went something like this:

Gloria (she’s a little frustrated):  “Everybody calls this my blankie, but it’s not.  I love this. But, it’s a Peace Quilt, not a blankie.”

Long pause.  Then Gloria continued.

“It makes me feel good.  I love snuggling with my Peace Quilt.  Look at all the pictures.  See, there’s a puppy, and lambs.  Look at the pink.  I like pink.  And the best part is the back with all the stars.  When I go to sleep at night, I have my stars right with me.  This is my Peace Quilt.”

Wow!  You could have heard a pin drop.  Gloria asked, “What do you like on my Peace Quilt?”  Fifteen children descended on her, each one wanting to look.  After all, they were now really looking at the quilt as if they had never seen it before.  It was amazing what they saw.  And yes, the stars were the most popular.  Gloria then turned to Milly and said “Hi.”  They stared at each other.  Just stared.  Then Gloria spontaneously gave Milly a snuggle in her neck.  Milly grinned from ear to ear.  “What do you think, Milly?  What do you like?”  They had a long and lively discussion.  Children watched.  Gloria said, “We could make our own Peace Quilt!  What do you think?”  “Yes we can, Gloria.” said Milly.

Over the next week we pooled together all of our ideas.  Children had terrific ideas of Peace!  They understood.  Gloria had helped them to do that.

Little baby peeping chicks
Kittens
Stars (many votes)
My heart
Cows
Flowers
Ocean of blue and green
The color yellow
Autumn Tree
Puppies
Horse
White Triangles
Rainbow
Duckies
Big Star
Dogs
Truck that goes vroom
Hearts

We rolled up our sleeves, rolled out the big paper to sketch our ideas, opened our hearts, and got to work!  A classroom parent and artist came in put all the ideas of Peace onto paper.  Not an easy task when the children are in charge.

Little did I know how the sketch would look, much less the quilt.  And then, what would happen with the quilt?  How would Milly do this with the children?  More importantly, would she connect with children?  Stay tuned for Part 3. 

Jennie

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Milly the Quilter Story – Part 1

This is Part 1 in perhaps the best thing I ever did in teaching.  Really.  Some of my old bloggers will remember this gripping story.  There are 1o parts, and the story is absolutely wonderful.  Hang on for a great ride.


Milly the Quilter

Every good story has a great backstory.  To know how Milly came into my life and tell you about her early years in my classroom, I have to back up and tell you what really happened.  It’s a great story, and began what would become a legacy.  Hang onto your hat!

“It happened like this…”

My husband and I were at a fall wedding in Philadelphia.  We had an hour to spare, and went to the historic district to visit Carpenters Hall. After the tour, we had ten or fifteen minutes until all the museums closed.  Directly across the street was the National Liberty Museum, so we headed over.  Walking into the museum I was thunderstruck by a magnificent Peace Portal.  I stood underneath, soaking in all the beauty.  The museum was closing, and I hadn’t moved from under the Peace Portal.

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“I can do this!” I told my husband.  “I need to do this in my classroom. We can build this on top of the loft.  It will be a place for children to go, to just be. Children need Peace.”

And so it came to pass.  I contacted the National Liberty Museum to get permission to recreate their Peace Portal.  They were thrilled.  Little did I know that Peace would become an enormous part of the lives of children.  They loved being on the loft- sitting, thinking, reading and playing under the Peace Portal we had made.  Children felt the same way that I felt under the “real” Peace Portal.

       

I decided to talk to children and ask them how Peace makes them feel.  Colin said, “Peace makes me feel hearty.”  I said, “So Peace makes you feel strong.  That’s terrific, Colin.”  He looked at me in frustration, patted his heart, and said, “No Jennie, Heart-y.”

Their thoughts were so remarkable that we made a Peace Poetry Book in the spring. It is card catalogued at the public library.  Our school year of Peace, from making a Peace Portal to writing a book of poetry was a very good year.

Little did I know, this was only the beginning.  The stage had been set for  Milly, and I had no idea that the museum would play a big role. 

The following fall my husband and I went to the Bennington Museum in Vermont to see their Grandma Moses collection.  We walked into the front entrance to see a display of Haitian Quilts.  These were murals, as detailed and stunning as a painting.  I was frozen. This must have been what the first people felt when they saw the ocean or the Grand Canyon.

“I know that look” said my husband.  “Do you really think you can make one of these at school?”

“No, but we can design one.  Peace was a wonderful part of school last year, and the children wanted more.  This is IT.  We can make a Peace Quilt!”

We looked at each other and said in unison, “We need a quilter.”

Meeting Milly was not what I expected, and certainly meeting me was not what Milly expected at all…

Stay tuned for Part 2.

Jennie

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Remembering Jane Yolen

Children’s book author Jane Yolen has passed away.  She was a gifted author, and her books are well known.  She made a huge difference in the lives of children – and me.  I want to honor Jane with my memories of her.

I’d only been teaching a few years when Jane Yolen’s book Owl Moon came out.  It was one of the best.  By that time in the mid-80’s I had already become glued to good books, and very picky.  Buying a book was a big deal on a preschool teacher’s salary, but I bought this book.


Children loved the story, and I read it to them over and over again.  It was late in the fall, and I thought, ‘we could go owling, just like in the book’.  We did!  Parents loved it, and we heard an owl answer back.  This was the first nighttime event anyone had done at school.  Can you imagine being close to the woods at night -at school- calling for owls?

I wrote a blog post about going owling.  Jane read the post and replied,

“In the end of course, fame and fortune don’t matter.  It’s the child remembering your story with great fondness that is important.  Only that.”

Jane was a presenter at the Eric Carle Museum years later.  Hearing her speak was just wonderful.  Better yet, her daughter was also speaking, and when she talked about Owl Moon I blurted out, “It was you!  You were the little girl in the book.”  She smiled.  The audience did, too.  After the presentation I had a chance to meet and talk with Jane Yolen.  I told her all about going owling with my class after reading her book.


Oh, we talked and talked.  Everyone in line to meet her was fascinated.

I’m a huge fan of Jane Yolen’s How Do Dinosaurs books.  I think I’ve read every one, and I often give a stuffed dinosaur along with the book as a gift.


I can’t say enough about the dinosaur books.  They are in rhyme, and perfect for 3-8 year-olds. 

Great writers say important words.  Jane Yolen said:

“Writers have ideas.  It’s what they do with them that counts.”

We need teachers to turn on the lights for us.  It’s hard to read and write in the dark.”

“The author isn’t important.  Their writing is.

“Don’t write down to children.  They will know and remember the words.”

Last year I was invited to Jane’s birthday party.  Lucky me!


Here’s the best part; a child in my class who went owling came along to the birthday party.  We were there a little early, so I dragged this shy child, now an adult, up to meet Jane Yolen.  She was scared.  I was not!  Jane remembered the story of going owling, and there she was, meeting one of the owling chldren.  It was a full circle moment!

Rest in Peace, Jane.  You have made a difference.

Jennie

 

 

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Our Wish Tree at the Library

After reading Wishtree to my library group, I knew I had to do more.  When a really good book sticks with children, and they’re not ready to let go, it’s up to me to make something meaningful happen.  I can’t leave children hanging.

The library has a beautiful red maple tree by their entrance.

We could write wishes and hang them on the tree!  The children loved this idea!  And so, we wrote wishes.

This is my favorite from Gaia:
“I wish all people would get together.”

The library loves the wish tree.  They are planning on adding this to their summer program, having children write wishes to adorn the tree.  Isn’t that wonderful?  I never had a chance as a child to write a wish, much less hang it on a tree.  We always wrote what we were thankful for, and children still do that today.  While that is wonderful, opening the world to wishes can take thankfulness to a new, deeper level.

Jennie

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Jennie the Schoolmarm

I get to bring history alive for third graders in town.  This year one of the children who remembered me (many do), came up to me after the event.  First she hugged me and told me she missed me.  Then, she had a worried look on her face and asked,

“So Jennie…is this what you do now?  Are you still teaching?”

“Brooke, I do this, but I’m still teaching.”

Brooke said a very loud “Whew!”

Here is my post about Jennie the schoolmarm.  I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it:

Every year, third graders in Groton, Massachusetts take a field trip to the old one-room schoolhouse, the Sawtelle School.  It’s living history, and that’s just how children should learn history.

I get to be their teacher.  Lucky me.


Groton is an old New England town, settled in 1655.  The schoolhouse dates from the late 1700’s and was in continuous use as a one-room schoolhouse until 1916.  It served as a school for nearly 125 years and is on the National Register of Historic Places.

In 1833 it was converted from wood to brick.  That’s the year in which I am the schoolmarm, and where this story begins…

I ring the big brass bell to call the scholars to school.  In 1833, children who attended school were ‘scholars’, not students.  “Welcome, scholars!  This is the old schoolhouse in Groton.”

Before I had a chance to say any more, a few children recognized me and ‘broke the line’ to run forward and give me a hug.

“Let’s look at the outside before we go inside.”

I showed children the well (yes the real well is still there), the only source of water at school.  I asked plenty of questions to get them thinking:

How do you get the water out of the well?
How do you drink the water?
What else was water used for?

Next I said, “There were no toilets.  Do you want to see where you had to pee and poo?”

Of course they did!  Taking children to the outhouses was fun.  I told them with great animation what it was like in an outhouse:

There is a thick, long board with a hole in the middle.  You sit on the hole and do your business.  No toilet paper.

Silence and wide eyes.

School was summer and winter, because spring and fall were farm work months.  You’d be working all day.  So, imagine winter here by the outhouse.  It took you ‘forever’ just to walk out here. 

The outhouse was a great bonding experience.  They knew I wasn’t a stuffy, boring old lady.  They knew I liked them.  They knew I was excited about being their teacher.

I took the children inside the school.  The desks (not original) were lined up and children rushed to get a desk.  I watched them.  They rubbed their hands over the surface, moved about, and thought.  Yes, they thought.  I knew they were soaking it all in, the way children do.

When you look around, you see there are no electrical lights and no heaters.  Light came from this oil lamp I am holding.  Heat came from this wood burning stove.  Imagine fetching wood from outside in the winter to heat the schoolhouse, so your fingers wouldn’t be stiff from cold, and you could write on your slate.  Paper was expensive and scarce, so you wouldn’t have that in school.

I let those thoughts sink in, then I showed children artifacts from the school- a quill pen and inkwell, a water dipper, a dinner pail (dinner was eaten at our lunchtime, and supper was eaten at our dinnertime.)  We talked about farming, hard work, and how it was a privilege to go to school.

On the wall at the old schoolhouse is a life-size photo of Eva Belle Torrey, who was a scholar at the school.  Alongside are excerpts from her diary.  I called the children’s attention to Eva.  Her decedents keep in touch and support the Sawtelle School Association.

I read aloud Eva’s three diary entries.  Each started with the weather and how many scholars were at school.  When she was 11, her friend died.  When she was 12, she was going to study Physiology, Physical Geography and Botany this term in the place of History, Common Geography, and Language.

You could have heard a pin drop.

It was time to start school.

We stood to say the Pledge of Allegiance.

Did children know the pledge?  Did they recite it daily?  I wasn’t sure, but then…

Then we were ready to sing the National Anthem…but there was no National Anthem in 1833.  Back then, children sang “My Country ‘Tis of Thee.”  I told the children how I called my mother in disbelief when I learned America didn’t have a National Anthem until 1931.  I held a pretend phone to my ear and said to children:

 Mother, please tell me it isn’t true.  Please tell me we had a National Anthem when you were a little girl.

No, Jennie.  It’s true.

What did you sing?

“My Country ‘Tis of Thee.”

And so it was.  These children stood up, and to my great surprise they  belted out the song.  It made me proud.

I told children the strict rules in school in 1833.  I told them about the forms of discipline with great fanfare:

  • Paddling.  Oh, there was a paddle from the schoolhouse.  My Jennie Story of teacher paddling at my elementary school was a shock.
  • Bending over to touch a spot on the floor, and staying there for a long time.  I called upon a teacher in the group of third graders to be the ‘victim’, and of course the children loved it.
  • Wearing a Dunce Cap.  I called upon a scholar to come sit on the tall stool in the corner and wear the Dunce Cap.  Very popular!
  • Wedging a block of wood in the mouth for whispering.
  • Pegging girl’s braids onto hooks.  Everyone was pretty shocked at this one.  Girls who had long hair and braids instinctively covered their heads.
  • Boys wearing a pink bonnet for teasing.  Everyone thought this was funny.

Children copied a poem, “Good, better, best” onto their slates.  That was not easy to do.  When everyone finished, we recited the poem aloud, together.  Poetry, reciting, reading, and reading aloud were all key elements in what children did at school.  Isn’t that wonderful?  Next, every child had a reader, the book that was used in 1833.  Children took turns standing in front of the class and reading aloud the story.  Oh, it was a great story about a boy who found a bear cub and brought it to school.

Next came Arithmetic.  A few of the third graders knew that Arithmetic is math.  I wrote problems on the chalkboard and children wrote answers on their slates.  They could do addition and subtraction in the thousands.  Mental Arithmetic was next, and it’s always tougher.  I told a story of a boy who had to collect firewood for the schoolhouse, how many pieces he collected, dropped, and so on.  Children wrote the answers on their slates.

Last on the agenda was singing a song from that era.  I taught children “She’ll Be Comin’ Round the Mountain.”  Oh my goodness, they loved it!

Finally, children asked questions:

What happened if you got sick?
If you got hurt, how would you get to a doctor?
How would they get in touch with your mom or dad?

A few days after being the schoolmarm, I received two thank you notes from children who were there as ‘scholars’.  What a wonderful surprise.

Teaching history is important.  Children need to know about the past in order to become good citizens in the future.

Jennie

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Childhood Anxiety is Real

Out of the blue a former Aqua Roomer popped in to visit.  It was Lizzie.


Lizzie visiting in 2018

My goodness, it was so good to see her.  Lizzie is now Hadrian, a they, but with the same smile and bright eyes.  Hadrian is in college studying mathematics and engineering.

After a gigantic hug, I put both hands on their cheeks and smiled like I was catching up on nearly 10 years of lost smiles.  Well, I was.

They cried and laughed.  I did, too.


Hadrian and I are with Terri,
the other teacher he remembers well.

We reminisced.  Hadrian wanted to talk about summer camp and the playground.  So many thing kept coming up, and the more they talked the more they remembered.  Of course I kept those fires burning.

Hadrian needed this.  I could tell.

Hadrian remembered Gloria and asked if she was still around.  The conversation went something like this:

“Jennie, is Gloria still around?”

“Yes!  Are you ready for this?  She has just come back from England!”

“No way!”

“Yes.  She’s as wonderful today as she was with you.”

Long pause…

“Hadrian, would you like to take Gloria home for the weekend?”

They didn’t know what to say, but their eyes and smile said it all.  So, we went to the classroom to greet Gloria.  Hadrian was fascinated with her journal and asked, “Where are her first two journals?”  I said they’re at my house.  “Can I read them?”  I said, “Of course.  I’ll bring them to school on Monday.”

So Hadrian, a former Aqua Roomer as Lizzie, has anxiety and issues.  They wanted to spend the weekend with Gloria.  Somehow I think she will bring much needed comfort.

Everyone has anxiety.  Everyone needs comfort.  Gloria can help.

Jennie

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Not All Days Are Good Days

Today was a tough day.  Nothing seemed to go right.  If you know the classic book, Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day, you know what I mean.

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It started with drop-offs.  Children who never cry cried.  For a long time.  Parents who rarely stay stayed, for a long time.

We played outside and made mud pies, which was wonderful, until we had to clean up the mud.

We had a special guest, and children had to be reminded many times to pay attention.  She is a seasoned teacher and the children love her.

Before rest time, Naomi does wonderful mindfulness and affirmations with children.  They look forward to it.  Well, today was not the day, and she had to stop.

Next is chapter reading.  Today was the second time all year that I had to close the book and say, “I guess there won’t be any chapter reading today.”

At the end of the day, this is what I found:

When everything seems wrong, there’s always something wonderful.  Always.

Jennie

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A Memorial Day Remembrance

Every year at school we have a Memorial Day Remembrance.  It’s important for children, well…for everybody.  Making it meaningful for young children is not easy, but Retired Master Sergeant Michael Kennedy does a remarkable job.

He asks children, “Who likes decorations?”  Of course all hands go up.  Then he tells children how Memorial Day used to be Decoration Day, and poppies were used to decorate the graves and markers of fallen soldiers.  He talks about serving our country and thanking veterans.

The Aqua Roomers held the American flag and sang “God Bless America.”  The kindergarteners sang “God Bless the USA”, aka “Proud to Be an American.”  Wonderful doesn’t even come close.

Then Michael helped children plant flags in our Memory Garden.

A special guest played taps, and a veteran jumped up and saluted.  It was a moment I’ll never forget.

That afternoon I showed children Peter Spier’s book, The Star-Spangled Banner.  

We spent time looking at the page with graves and poppies.  There were lots of questions.  That was a good thing.


Never forget.  Thank a veteran.

Jennie

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Talking Death With Children

Death is the dreaded “D” word when talking with children, but it doesn’t have to be.  It can be an open door to a much needed conversation.  Here’s what happened at school:

Our Memory Garden at school is visited by children, but often in a fleeting way.  Questions are welcome, and sometimes when that happens, they turn into much more.


One child stops to look, asks a question, and it becomes a magnet for other children to see what’s happening and join in.  It was Eloise.  The painted rocks caught her eye, and she asked me what they were.  Well, Eloise is very intuitive, so explaining they were in memory of classroom pets who had died was not enough.  By now there was a big crowd around the Memory Garden.  I read the name on every stone and recalled the pet and the classroom.  It was Captain America that stumped Eloise.  She wanted to know if the father was buried there.  Of course she did.  Then there was the deer, in memory of a baby who died, and the dragonfly in memory of a student who died.  I answered all the questions.  Children were silent, but they didn’t want to leave.  A Memory Garden does that.  The dreaded “D” word is no longer dreaded.

I want to share a blog post from 10 years ago about the Memory Garden.  Hang on to your hats, because what happened is something I will never forget.  Never.

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Our Memory Garden at school is a raised bed of beauty; flowers, sculptures, American flags, and a collection of painted rocks, all to mark classroom pets and loved ones who have died over the years. The garden sits quietly as children run and play alongside. It is welcoming, and children who visit inevitably ask questions.

Additionally, there is a flat paving stone with a carved dragonfly in remembrance of Taylor, a little boy in our school who died some years ago. Taylor adored dragonflies. Yesterday I noticed the garden needed weeding, and sat on the low stone wall to take care of Taylor’s dragonfly. Emma came over to ask what I was doing. She wanted to help me weed. That was the beginning of a remarkable series of events about dying.

Yes – dying – the word that scares teachers and parents. The “D” word. Something they hope they’ll never have to talk about until their child is older. I wasn’t scared.

Emma noticed the dragonfly and we weeded together to make things beautiful again. She was quiet, and this work seemed to be soothing to her. Well, that’s what I thought at first. Yet, it was far more than the weeding that was soothing Emma which I would soon discover. Ever-cheerful Scarlet bounced over with her signature big smile and curiosity. It was Scarlet’s first real visit to the garden.

“What’s that statue?”
“It’s a baby deer.. It’s for someone who died long ago.”
“Died? Is he under the deer?”
“Oh, no. People would have to be buried in a real cemetery.”
Long pause…
“Scarlet, the deer helps us to remember the person. See how beautiful his eyes are? We can remember the good. All statues and painted rocks represent pets and people who have died”, I said waving my arm across the garden. “Look here. What are those letters on the green rock?”
“They spell P-E-E-P”.
“Peep was our Guinea pig before Ella.”
“Emma, do you remember Peep?”

Emma nodded her head yes. She was there to love Peep when he was alive, and she was there when he died. Emma had not talked this entire conversation. She had not even made eye contact with either of us.  I told the children how Peep was buried deep under the rock in a pink lunchbox. I told them the story of how he had died at Audrey’s house on Christmas Eve, and how we had buried him in the snowy weather.

Then we talked about Peep and all the things he did when he was alive. We looked at the blue rock for Goldie the fish, and the rock for Sparky, and for many other pets. I told them stories of our first guinea pig. We weeded and talked. Finally Emma said, “My Nana died yesterday. She was ninety-five.” Relief.  She said it.  We talked some more, but now it was Emma who did the talking, all about her Nana.

Scarlett jumped right in, “My sister Ruby died.”
My silence must have been deafening. “Do you want to tell us about it?”
“Yup. She was bigger than me. She died in Mom’s belly before I was born. We have her birthday every year.”

Elena, the inquisitive and thoughtful one, walked right over to Scarlet. “What happened? Your sister died?” And, Scarlett told the whole story over again, including the birthday part. Emma asked me if all the animals in the Memory Garden celebrated birthdays. I told her I didn’t know, but wouldn’t that be a wonderful thing. Everyone nodded and looked at me, hoping I could make something happen, or perhaps make things ‘right’ for the animals.

“Let’s sing Happy Birthday to everyone. What do you think”. Squeals of “yes”, hand-clapping, and jumping up and down told me that singing the song was indeed a good idea. We all held hands, including other children who had gathered at the Memory Garden, and belted out Happy Birthday, twice. It felt good. The children were satisfied.

Our Memory Garden is an open door for children to wonder about the circle of life and ask questions.  Don’t we all need that?  Don’t we need a remembrance, a garden to weed and take care of, and others who can listen and understand?

The next evening a friend and fellow teacher came over for dinner.  She was the mom of the child with the dragonfly stone in the Memory Garden.  I have the same stone in my garden.  As we walked outside she noticed my dragonfly stepping stone in my garden.  We stopped.  This was a moment for her, beautiful memories after a tragedy.  When we walked out to sit by the pool, a rare ‘dragonfly show’ suddenly appeared.  Imagine that!

blue-dragonfly

Jennie

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