Children and Spirits – Three True Stories

There is a difference between spirits and ghosts.  Spirits are the soul that has survived when a person dies.  Ghosts on the other hand are tied to a location where they died, often a tragic or sudden death.

I believe in spirits.  Often the very youngest of children see spirits.  Here are my three encounters:

#1) While visiting our son and his family nearly fifteen years ago, we were in the car headed to visit the Norfolk Zoo.  Our granddaughter was under the age of two.  She was in her carseat beside the window, Hubby and I were beside her in the backseat.  She was always a gentle child, quiet and happy.  We hit a traffic light.  On the side of the road (her carseat side) was a big cemetery.

Everything changed, as if an alert button had been pushed.

She immediately whipped her head around to look at the cemetery.  She began waving and ‘talking’ with great excitement.  She smiled and giggled.  It seemed that the traffic light was the longest one ever, as this went on without a pause for quite a while.  The traffic light turned green.  Our car moved forward, past the cemetery, and our granddaughter returned to her normal self.  No one in the car could speak.

 

#2) When I was away at summer camp as a child, I had ‘moved up’ to the older kids’ area- cabins, not tents..  Salt Rock, WV was rural with beautiful rolling hills.  The dirt road up to the cabins was very dark at night.  One evening I was walking the dirt road alone, headed to my cabin, and my father suddenly appeared.  He had died in a car crash when I was five, and there he was, the way I remembered him.  Blurry, but it was him.  Neither of us said anything.  I felt good and smiled, and then he was gone.

 

#3) Many of you remember Milly the Quilter.  Milly had been vibrant and a big part of my preschool class for ten years.  She was my mother’s age, but that didn’t matter.  We became friends.  Milly and her famous quilts are in many places of honor, and our car rides to-and-from quilt presentations were some of the best times together.  Oh, how we laughed!  I knew her health was failing.  Her daughter had called to tell me she was close to the end.

And then I got the call, “Jennie, can you come and say goodbye to Milly?  Now?  I don’t think she can hang on any longer.”

I never drove so fast in my life.  My heart was pounding as I raced to get to her bedside.  I was five minutes away, approaching an overpass.  Suddenly I was hit by an enormous wave of peace.  Milly was there with me, smiling.  It was the strongest sensation, yet only lasted for thirty seconds.  I knew Milly had died.

When I arrived at Milly’s bedside five minutes later, her daughter said, “Jennie, I’m so sorry.  Milly died five minutes ago.”  I said, “I know.  She was with me for a moment.  It was overwhelming.  She was happy and peaceful and saying goodbye.”

I’ve always believed that our physical body is a living shell for our spirit.  I hope you are lucky enough to encounter a spirit one day.  It’s an experience you will never forget.  You may not see the spirit, but you will certainly know it is there with you.

Jennie

P.S. Thank you to Don Ostertag at Don Ostertag: Off Stage for encouraging me to tell these stories.  His recent Guthrie Theater post (which is wonderful) triggered spirits and ghosts.

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I often write about being kind, but what about neglecting to be kind and not stepping in. It is all too common. Read on!

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24 Hours Later…

It’s been 24 hours since I posted my brief letter to families about inviting Gloria home for a weekend Gloria and the President  She is now ‘booked’ through Thanksgiving, including going Trick-Or-Treating and being at Thanksgiving dinner.  24 hours.  Bless you, Gloria.

Jennie

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Gloria and the President

After watching the President speak to the nation and Hubby’s lightbulb question, here is what I sent to families tonight:

Hi Families,

My husband and I watched the President address the nation tonight.  The speech was full of passion for addressing and condemning hate, and understanding and accepting people.  At the end, Hubby said, “This is Gloria.  Is anyone taking her home for the weekend?”

Yes, it was Gloria.  And, I neglected to tell families that Gloria can go home with your child for the weekend.  She has a Peace Quilt and a journal of her many adventures.  She might be shy, but she is a good friend, and someone who truly gives children love, and an open door to acceptance.  Let us know if your child would like Gloria for a weekend.

Best,
Jennie

The Gloria weekend sign-ups have already started.

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A Magical Evening at School

As the sky darkened,
families enjoyed a pizza dinner on the playground.
It was the first time everyone was together.

Families brought pumpkins and went to work
carving them into jack-o-lanterns.
We set all the jack-o-lanterns along the stone wall.
Families looked and smiled,
as if it were their ‘magnum opus’.

Then we gathered in a big circle,
each child and family holding their jack-o-lantern,
snuggling together.
It was dark.
We gave children glow sticks.
I played the autoharp so we could sing our favorite song,
“The Jack-O-Lantern Song.”
Music was the frosting on the cake.
Magic happened at school.

Jennie

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Gloria’s Debut, and a Letter to Parents

I’m always a bit nervous with excitement when Gloria makes her ‘debut’ in the classroom.  I know the children will welcome her because every year she is loved from Day One.  Today was no exception.  Frankly, it was wonderful.  She has a new bed, and children carefully covered her.  They held her, loved her, and accepted her for who she is – different on the outside, but the same as us on the inside.  

Here is the letter we sent to parents today:

Introducing Gloria, our Aqua Room Friend
October 11th, 2023


Gloria was introduced to your children today.  She came to Morning Meeting, reluctantly, because she is very shy.  After all, some people have called her a witch, so it is no wonder she needed coaxing to meet the Aqua Roomers.  Gloria is old, has wrinkly skin and gray hair, and is very fond of black.  Actually, black is her favorite color, along with a pointy hat and pointy shoes.  Gloria is our classroom puppet, yet she is very real to all the children.  She represents all the things that children feel.  Because she is different, she helps children develop an understanding of others.

When she arrived, your children didn’t know what to think.  No one said a word, and there were many wide eyes.  When we talked about Gloria, children wondered if she was a witch.  That was the perfect door to open!  Gloria herself jumped in to talk (finally), and she told them how people had called her a witch.  “Well, I’m not a witch.  I just like black.  It’s my favorite color.  My skin is wrinkly, and my hair is gray and sticky-uppy-outy.”  Then children started to look to Gloria directly, eye to eye, and Gloria responded in kind. One child said, “Gloria, do you want to wear my sunglasses?”  Then she introduced herself.  Gloria wanted to learn the names of your children, and asked each child if she could shake their hand.  Well, children stayed by her side after the handshake.  Many surrounded the teacher chair, and the conversations kept going.  There were spontaneous hugs and fist bumps.  Gloria has photos in her journal over many years.  She has been everywhere!  She even showed us her blankie (peace quilt) and her very own bed (aqua, of course.)

This was powerful.  What transpired in our classroom in less than thirty minutes is what can sometimes take years for people to learn; caring and acceptance.  Gloria is different, yet she has the same feelings that we all do.  She is a good friend.  Your children were able to look beyond her appearance and see her for what she truly is.

A child rushed over to hold her and cover her.  A group gathered to play with her.  They were careful and gentle; it made teachers smile to stand back and watch.  Children were helping Gloria.  She is being looked after.  She is a new friend.

Gloria will quickly become a close member of the Aqua Room.  She will be the one who understands, or perhaps the one who has problems.  She will be fun, sometimes silly, and may look to your children for a hug.  If you want to know more about Gloria, she has a journal of her weekends with Aqua Roomers.  Please tell her hello when you’re in the classroom.


Warmly,

Jennie, Heidi, and Naomi

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The Road Out of Hate

Hate is the ugliest and most debilitating feeling.  I know, and I have come a long way.  Growing up in the south in America in the 50’s and 60’s, there was hate.  The wall of segregation made sure that hate was there.  And stayed.

Here we are decades later, and hate seems to be stronger than ever as evidenced by the current events in the Middle East.  What’s the answer?  Get to know one person.  Black, Jew, Asian, Indian…it’s a long list of hate.  One person opens the door to seeing, really seeing.

When I was in high school, the smartest person in my class was Donetta Edwards.  She was the only black in school.  I’m ashamed that I argued with her in Civics class that whites were smarter than blacks.  I got to know Donetta.  That changed my ingrained hate.

Hubby was president of a respected and established literary society in high school.  He recommended Leon Denmark be inducted into the society.  Leon was black.  He was voted in.  He and Hubby became friends.

Two of my best friends growing up were Jewish.  I went to Temple and learned about Hanukkah.  Thank goodness!

When you learn to like a person, you understand their culture, and that is step #1 in  getting out of hate.

If you like a black friend or a Jewish friend, how can you hate Blacks and Jews?

Start with one.  All it takes is one.  You see, hating a race means hating people.  Most of us don’t hate people.

Mister Rogers understood better than most.  Here is his gentle and subtle clip on acceptance:

How do I address acceptance?  Gloria!  She is the best, as she is very different and extremely shy, yet children rally around her.  The world has loved her for nearly twenty years.  Gloria makes her debut this year on Wednesday.  Stay tuned!

Acceptance and diversity is easy and natural, once you know someone.  It’s the road out of hate.

Jennie

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I often quote E.B. White on his keen observations of nature. M.C. Tuggle gives us another remarkable quotation.

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The Story of Art – My Journey With Juliet

I write this journey backwards in time, as it tells a better story.

Juliet, fourteen years later.

Juliet noticed everything.  She loved to draw, and her pictures were detailed and beautiful.  Little did I know she had paid attention to our Starry Night poster in the classroom.  I always had art hanging, and Starry Night was a mainstay.  Where would we be without art?

When she went to MoMA (Museum of Modern Art) in New York, she saw her beloved Starry Night.  Her mom took this photo for me.

When Juliet was in sixth grade, the assignment was to paint one of the famous works of art.  Yes, she painted Starry Night.  Wow!


There is more – much more – that all started before Starry Night.
It happened like this…

After visiting the Bennington Museum in Vermont and seeing their display of Haitian quilts, I was thunderstruck.  We had just created a Peace Portal in the classroom, yet I could tell the children needed and wanted more.  I knew we could create a Peace Quilt.

It began with Juliet’s mom sketching out children’s ideas.

Juliet was eager to decorate the big drawing.


Ta-Dah!


When the quilt was finished, I compiled all the photos into a book.


Fast forward….

Juliet and her mom and sister visited.  It had been a long time since I had seen them.  Juliet’s mom had just repainted her Peace Dove in the parking lot.

After all the hugs and smiles (which took forever), I talked about the Peace Quilt.  We reminisced about making the drawing.  I pulled out the Creating a Peace Quilt book and read it aloud.  It was a walk down memory lane.

And then, the best.  I had saved that original drawing of the Peace Quilt.  I gave it to Janine, Juliet’s mom.  She was overcome.

The quilt hangs as a permanent display at the National Liberty Museum in Philadelphia.  Milly was the quilter who took the drawing and children’s ideas and made the quilt.

Juliet drew a picture of the quilt for Milly.  Every triangle along the border was in the exact color.  Her drawing was the greatest treasure Milly received.

Jennie

P.S. Milly made more quilts with the children, and they hang in places of prominence.  I have written many blog posts on Milly.

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I Was There!

I was at the library the same day he was.
It was his birthday, six years old at last,
which means he can get his very own library card.
He did!
Look at his enormous smile.
I was his preschool teacher.
I loved him, he loved me.
He was a napper, and often fell asleep during chapter reading.
And then it happened.
He sat up straight as an arrow when I read aloud
Little House on the Prairie.
The words connected, his brain was wired,
and he couldn’t get enough.
Words and stories, Jennie Stories, picture books,
and of course chapter reading became his #1.
This is why I read aloud, every day, with passion.
And, at the moment he got his library card.
I was there!

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