How Not to Become a Troubled School Shooter

Make Friends

Be Kind

Share

Play

Read Books, Together

Laugh

Know That Crying Lets The Hurt Come Out

Tell Stories, Real and Make Believe

Tell your Mom When You Feel Angry

Say Please and Thank You

Ask For Help

Accept Help

Remember That People Love You

Play Outside

Run, Jump, and Swing Really High

Be a Listener

Know That Scared and Lonely Does Not Feel Good

Remember That a Hug Feels Really Good

Watch the Wonders of Nature and Animals

Love a Dog, Pat a Bunny

Let Ladybugs and Beetles Crawl on You.

Write Your Stories

Draw Pictures and Paint

Sing Loud

Dance

Follow the Golden Rule

Jennie

About Jennie

I have been teaching preschool for over thirty years. This is my passion. I believe that children have a voice, and that is the catalyst to enhance or even change the learning experience. Emergent curriculum opens young minds. It's the little things that happen in the classroom that are most important and exciting. That's what I write about. I am highlighted in the the new edition of Jim Trelease's bestselling book, "The Read-Aloud Handbook" because of my reading to children. My class has designed quilts that hang as permanent displays at both the National Liberty Museum in Philadelphia, and the Fisher House at the Boston VA Hospital.
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69 Responses to How Not to Become a Troubled School Shooter

  1. srbottch says:

    Fantastic list, Jennie. A great place to start. All moms and dads should see this. Unfortunately, many of them are them are missing.

  2. davidprosser says:

    Do you teach children about the Golden Rule Jennie? If they could take that on board it would be fantastic. Chivalry is another good one and make them all feel like Knights of old.
    xxx Huge Hugs xxx

  3. Reblogged this on Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life and commented:
    Another thought provoking post from Jennie Fitzkee who has been a pre-school teacher for over 30 years. For those of us who find her posts on her classroom inspiring and informative, this post should be spread far and wide. Please head over and discover how the complex issue of disturbed young people who feel the need to harm their fellow classmates, could be countered by some simple but vital everyday activities.. #brilliant

  4. beetleypete says:

    Great words of wisdom, from someone who really cares..
    In this electronic age, it might be worth adding not to mock or bully other kids online, and to never exclude someone because of their appearance. That’s where Gloria comes in of course.
    Best wishes, Pete.

  5. Opher says:

    I loved that Jennie!

  6. Opher says:

    Reblogged this on Opher's World and commented:
    If only people could all follow such philosophy the world would be such a nicer place.

  7. Norah says:

    Fabulous list, Jennie. Tonight, I saw on TV an article about a school with only one rule – respect. I thought that was a great place to start. So much flows from respect.

  8. Jennie, what you wrote is so incredible and should hang on every teachers wall and written in stone on every school building! This is everything a child needs to be know while in elementary school, high school, and college and it would be nice in the work place too. Perhaps people would not grow up to be mean to their own children by taking out all their pent up anger from not receiving love and kindness from their parents and the cycle goes on…. Why is it that so many religions focus on hell and damnation? They should focus on love, kindness, joy, with lots of hugs and that everyone should be good to each other. Love doesn’t care if you are rich or poor. Hate is a thief, that steals the humanity and creates all fear that is a destroyer of love. Thank you!

    • Jennie says:

      Karen, thank you for you eloquently written words. All I can say is yes, YES! You nailed it! It is so simple, isn’t it? All those little acts of caring over many years grow kind people. And if every parent and teacher did just that, we would have a world without meanness. I have to agree that this should be in sight in every school and classroom. I also think children should talk about it and ask questions. Oh, I can just imagine the stories “ar

  9. Reblogged this on K. DeMers Dowdall and commented:
    Jennie, what you wrote is so incredible and should hang on every teachers wall and written in stone on every school building! This is everything a child needs to be know while in elementary school, high school, and college and it would be nice in the work place too. Perhaps people would not grow up to be mean to their own children by taking out all their pent up anger from not receiving love and kindness from their parents and the cycle goes on…. Why is it that so many religions focus on hell and damnation? They should focus on love, kindness, joy, with lots of hugs and that everyone should be good to each other. Love doesn’t care if you are rich or poor. Hate is a thief, that steals the humanity and creates all fear that is a destroyer of love.

  10. So well said, Jennie! My wish is that somehow all children may have adults in their lives who encourage and allow these things to occur. – Susan

  11. John Fioravanti says:

    Superb recipe, Jennie. We adults can do well following much of that!

  12. Dan Antion says:

    When children don’t know these things, an adult has failed.

  13. I don’t believe that anyone who has had you as a teacher could every be a troubled school shooter, Jennie. A lovely list.

  14. Amazing, Jennie. Well done.

  15. tidalscribe says:

    We can’t expect teachers and nursery staff to make up for everything lacking at home ( a real home is what some children lack ) , but school and nursery are the places where the gaps can be filled in; no child should grow up being totally unaware of how civilised society expects people to behave towards one another. What could be a more important job than working with children.

    • Jennie says:

      Well said! And yes, what could be a more important job? I truly feel a responsibility to teach these simple yet important things to children. I’m their first teacher. Thank you!

  16. Libby Sommer says:

    you’re such a wonderful teacher Jennie. wonderful.

  17. frenchc1955 says:

    Reblogged this on charles french words reading and writing and commented:
    This is a wonderful and extraordinary post!

  18. frenchc1955 says:

    Thank you for a wonderful post!

  19. Norm 2.0 says:

    Wonderful advice indeed. Thanks for this 🙂

  20. Tina Frisco says:

    Wonderful, Jennie. An inspiration, especially if it were posted on school hallway bulletin boards ❤

  21. Annika Perry says:

    Jennie, this is precious!! 😀 A moving list and every child should be raised like this. I particularly had to smile at :’Let Ladybugs and Beetles Crawl on You’. There is something magical in those moments of stillness and utter contemplation … soulful.

  22. johncoyote says:

    I agree. Needed in every classroom and thank you for sharing.

  23. johncoyote says:

    Reblogged this on johncoyote and commented:
    Please read and pass on. Needed words and thoughts by a talented writer.

  24. Now all you need is a list on how not to contribute to the MAKING of a troubled school shooter…I suspect in the end we all have some responsibility here. (But I loved the list you made!)

  25. Yes! A thousand times yes! So much of this sort of teaching seems lost today.
    I’d add avoid violent video games, and too much TV. More time with family, and outside with friends.

    We didn’t allow violent video games or too much TV. My son wanted a video console so bad, but we made him save up to buy one. When he did we dictated the game he could have. He was allowed Pac Man, Space Invaders, Super Mario Bros. Aviation, race car driving, and reading and math games.

    If and when #1 Grandson asks for video games he’ll get the same games. His TV and YouTube viewing is limited and very sensored as well.

    • Jennie says:

      You did the right thing! If all parents spent more quality family time together, and put rules in place for video games AND cell phones, children would be far healthier and happier. Thanks so much!

  26. Thanks for these wonderful words of wisdom—from your computer keys to the ears, hearts, and minds of all children, or rather all people.

  27. sedijohnson1 says:

    Thanks Jennie for inspiring and teaching me through your writing. Do you have an Instagram account I would love to follow you.

  28. What you say makes so much sense, Jennie.

  29. I love your list. So simple, so perfect.

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