Saying Goodbye

We said our goodbyes to Ella the Fella.  Since Ella’s birthday is in December, children decided to sing “Happy Birthday.”
Next, they wanted to sing “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.”

Flowers were placed alongside Ella’s marker.
Miles told us, “There’s an invisible string that goes down into the hole and goes all the way to heaven.”

We made sure Gloria joined us to say goodbye.

I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge.  That myth is more potent than history.  That dreams are more powerful than facts.  That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief.  And I believe that love is stronger than death.”  -Robert Fulghum-

Jennie

About Jennie

I have been teaching preschool for over thirty years. This is my passion. I believe that children have a voice, and that is the catalyst to enhance or even change the learning experience. Emergent curriculum opens young minds. It's the little things that happen in the classroom that are most important and exciting. That's what I write about. I am highlighted in the the new edition of Jim Trelease's bestselling book, "The Read-Aloud Handbook" because of my reading to children. My class has designed quilts that hang as permanent displays at both the National Liberty Museum in Philadelphia, and the Fisher House at the Boston VA Hospital.
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62 Responses to Saying Goodbye

  1. beetleypete says:

    Touching indeed, Jennie. And always a joy to see Gloria included.
    Best wishes, Pete.

  2. beth says:

    how incredibly sweet.

  3. Miles is a wise boy ❤

  4. Opher says:

    Death is so hard to deal with!

  5. Jennie, these children are lucky to have you, particularly to have your kind help in dealing with and learning about something difficult. Heartfelt thanks for sharing this tenderness here. Hugs on the wing.

  6. As hard as it is, having the opportunity to say goodbye is so important.

  7. You have done a wonderful job of helping the children though a tough situation.

  8. Thank you for sharing this with us.

  9. Somehow, I think having Gloria there made it easier for the kids.

  10. magarisa says:

    So moving and meaningful.

  11. RIP Ella the Fella (that name has got to have a story behind it…surprising adults and kiddos alike I suspect!)

  12. Darlene says:

    A meaningful ceremony. The quote is perfect.

  13. Elizabeth says:

    I love the choice of music. Both very soothing songs for little kids.

  14. L. Marie says:

    Oh how beautiful, Jennie!

  15. I’m glad Gloria could make it. Thank you for sharing, Jennie.

  16. Dan Antion says:

    It’s so good to involve the children in this transition and to let them have a role in the process. Also glad to see Gloria.

    • Jennie says:

      Yes it is, Dan. Children need to have a concrete part in this. Otherwise, death is a scary thing. Gloria was quiet during everything. We talked to her later and helped her to understand. Really. How powerful that was for children!

  17. Annika Perry says:

    Jennie, I felt myself age eight again … when my beloved guinea pig was buried in a special corner of the garden, my mother and I had a little farewell. A tender post which is written with all heart. Miles’s comment had me in tears: ‘“There’s an invisible string that goes down into the hole and goes all the way to heaven.”

    • Jennie says:

      Thank you for sharing your story, Annika. I’m glad my words could bring you to feel like your eight year old self again. When Miles made that ‘announcement’, you could have heard a pin drop. It was just perfect. ❤️

  18. dgkaye says:

    Moving post Jennie. The quote by Fulghum says it all ❤

  19. Ah, this is lovely, Jennie.

  20. petespringerauthor says:

    I was waiting for this post, Jennie. I knew you would provide comfort to your students and help them get through a sad event in their lives. (I would have commented sooner, but California is in the midst of repeated power shutdowns) because of wildfires.

    I liked hearing how Ella the Fella got his name. That’s a terrific story. Maybe the next guinea pig will be named Hal the Gal.

    • Jennie says:

      Thank you, Pete. The children seemed to feel closure and have ‘moved on’ so to speak. As you know, children are far more resilient than we adults are. Now, when we walk outside to go to the playground, they often wave over to the Memory Garden and say, “Hi, Ella!”

      Hal the Gal. I love it! 😀

      The wildfires are very scary! Are you close?

      • petespringerauthor says:

        We’re not close, but everyone in my area has family or friends who are. My go-to move has been to find a good book and curl up around the fire all day while I keep it stoked.

      • Jennie says:

        A perfect go-to move, Pete. Thank goodness you’re not close. Of course everyone knows someone who is, and that puts the human face to this scary fire.

  21. I’m sure this made Ella’s passing ever so much easier to deal with.

  22. What a wonderful, hearttouching celebration.I am sorry for your loss, but saying “Good bye” is evident part of our lives, here on earth. Getting in touch with this ishard for the youngsters too. Michael

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